Making a frist impression is oh so important. In many circumstances. If I may believe what I read, research tells us it only takes the duration of an eye blink to size up another person in terms of attractiveness and trustworthiness. Over the next three seconds, we form a more “complete” conclusion about a new acquaintance relating to their presumed personality and competence. Wow, that little time. It is a “snap judgment”. And yet, that important.
Body language is many times more relevant than the words we utter. Also factors such as how we look, sound and smell.
Is it the truth? Do we really get what we see?
Recently I renewed contact with a friend from my schooldays in Poland. I don’t even know how it went exactly, but Facebook is a big help finding lost contacts. And there she was, Monika Baszczynska, in her full glory. A beautiful women now. With an angel of a daughter, Milenia. A man and a dog included in her life :-).
It brought so many memories. So many thoughts, good ones and painful ones too. And a lot of questions as well, of course. I was relieved to hear she is happy and well. Her smile and eyes are exactly the same as 26 years ago when I saw her for the last time.
Those days, we chat now and then. Telling stories about our lives. Sending pictures. Today I received this one. En yeah! I was jealous!
Having friends who connect you with your “old life” is a special feeling. A piece of you your courant friends not know. Moving aboard when I was a young girl ment leaving everything behind. Life as I knew was gone. I had to create new memories in a new country. So a little talk with Monia (as everyone calls her) is nice.
Please let stay in contact… lets us talk about the past and make plans for the future… as friends.
P.S. Look!… she sent me this picture too!! Me… as Maya The Bee!! Isn’t it fabulous? 🙂 🙂 🙂
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