A strong women…

Thinking about a strong men we usually think about his biceps, his physical strength. That’s usually the first thing coming up.

A strong women is a totally different story. It’s the attitude, state of mind and ability believing in herself at any time.

“A strong women accepts both a compliment and criticism graciously, knowing that it takes both sun and rain for a flower to grow.”

I couldn’t say it more beautiful. It is a quote I often think about. Being aware of the fact that it’s not simple to accept criticism. Not for me anyway. Growing older, it became easier. I see the value of a good criticism now and appreciate a constructive advice.

Being strong is not the same as hardheaded. And yessss, I used to be stubborn. But also that characteristic is settling down now 😉 However, I believe strong people need to be stubborn from time to time. They need to believe in their own values and stick with it.

There is one thing I am sure of. One thing I am thankful for… having a strong men besides me. Living with Bart allows me to be myself at any time. It allows me to grow. And for that… I will always have my gratitude.

A friend of mine, Esther, gives party’s called: women on fire (and only women allowed). What a wonderful idea to celebrate her friends like that. Esther is one of those women, and for her and any other beautiful, strong women out there, I want to say this…

“The strongest action for a women, is to love herself, be herself and shine amongst those who never believed she could.”

Wholeheartedly I hope I will be that stong woman who will fight her illness with dignity and proud being a… lady 🙂

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Choose wisely…

 I am at the place in my life where peace is my priority and negativity cannot exist. 

I choose friends wisely and leave behind what is too heavy to drag with me. Have no energy nor the will to do otherwise. Need to focus on what’s good for me and stick with it. “Energy flows where intention goes”, I read often. So… I need to focus on positive intentions. There I want to find my mind.

“Our energy introduces us before we even speak.” 

What a day…

you dance

you shine

you enjoy

you watch

you feel

you think

… what a beautiful day.

 

 

 

 

 

Do you get what you see?…

Making a frist impression is oh so important. In many circumstances. If I may believe what I read, research tells us it only takes the duration of an eye blink to size up another person in terms of attractiveness and trustworthiness. Over the next three seconds, we form a more “complete” conclusion about a new acquaintance relating to their presumed personality and competence. Wow, that little time. It is a “snap judgment”. And yet, that important.

Body language is many times more relevant than the words we utter. Also factors such as how we look, sound and smell.

Is it the truth? Do we really get what we see?

 

 

 

Say “no”, without explanation…

I have to learn to say “no”, without explaining myself.

In general, I don’t have much problems saying “no”. The issue is, that I always, always explain myself. And there is no need to do so. And yet, I’m still telling stories why I did this or do that. Why? No idea. Maybe it comforts me?

Bart and I have no children, like I have written before. Some people are wondered why. Instead of just saying “it is our choice”, I explain myself, almost apologising for it. The same when man asks why do I not work. An explanation about my illness follows. I could say nothing, or just that I am sick and that’s it. It is my business, after all.

People who know me well, say that I’m too good for this world. Even though, I want to be a good person. But I often have to remember myself that being good doesn’t mean being naive. And yes, sometimes I could think more about myself instead of others. But I’m working on it for sure! If you listen to me carefully , you can hear ‘no’ more often ;-).

You can’t please everyone. It is not possible, don’t even try. I have been there, done that. Not a success. So… now, I try to be honest with myself. Do the things I believe must be done. Try to help where I can. And say “no” where and when needed.

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